Each month, we bring you a guest article written by Care Resources, an organization that provides services to adults age 55+ at its Lowell facility.
When longstanding Father’s Day traditions like a round of golf or big backyard BBQ are no longer feasible for an aging dad, how else can you make the most of the holiday?
Garth Falkins, recreational therapy manager for Care Resources, says many activities can be adapted for changes in mobility, memory, energy levels and more, but what matters most is continuing to spend quality time together.
“As we get older, holidays become more about reconnecting,” Falkins says. “Think about what your father finds most important in his life and consider new ways you can bring a meaningful experience to him. There are bound to be a few ways you can modify a favorite pastime and still have a fun celebration.”
For a father who loves the outdoors, Falkins advises calling ahead to local botanical gardens or parks to see what wheelchairs or other accessible equipment may be available. He notes there are several accessible fishing areas and stocked ponds in West Michigan that can offer a safe, enriching experience for your dad to enjoy without stepping into a boat.
“If going out for a stroll anywhere feels like too much, don’t discount the joy that can come from a drive to a beach or another scenic destination,” he adds.
Eating out at a restaurant can become a difficult affair for older adults, but Falkins says that doesn’t mean you can’t bring dad’s favorite food to him – whether it’s going through a drive-thru together, bringing takeout or having a picnic at his home.
“If he’s in a retirement community or nursing home, consider reserving a room to have a potluck or bring in catered food,” Falkins suggests. “If at any point he feels tired or overwhelmed, he can easily go back to his room to rest.”
For sports fans, Falkins says you don’t have to coordinate a trip to the stadium or wait for the next big game to watch a sporting activity together. Instead, record a game or pull up compilation videos dad can enjoy in the comfort of his home and at a time he feels his best.
“Be aware of any medication or dietary needs that may have changed before cracking open a cold one for the special occasion,” Falkins cautions. “See if you can talk with your father’s physician about whether he could enjoy a beer, or if a nonalcoholic brew or other beverage is the way to go this year.”
Another idea is to set up a family game night with your father’s favorite board or card games. You can also explore indoor golf simulators, video games such as bowling with Wii Sports or online options such as virtual checkers that can be set up with help of a recreational therapist or loved one.
Special activities aside, Falkins reiterates the importance of maintaining consistent connection year-round with older adults to decrease loneliness, increase quality of life and support emotional well-being. Spreading out visits among family members throughout the week so they’re not just on the weekends or holidays can offer great reprieve from feelings of isolation.
“Regular family interaction is so beneficial, but for those who don’t have loved ones around, a community-based program like Care Resources can help bridge that gap,” Falkins adds. “For many of our participants, our day center becomes that second family.”
For more information about Care Resources, call 800.610.6299 or visit CareResources.org.
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